'Just The One For Now Thanks.'

Saturday, March 22, 2014

everyone: ‘You gotta have another one!’

me: 'Well, wouldn't that more than double my caregiving responsibilities?  I've heard that it's not linear...'

everyone: 'That's true, but it's still better to just get it over with/out of the way. #outoftheway'

(just kidding, there is no hash tag)

me: 'Yea, I'm not sure about that.

everyone: '...if you go ahead and get it out of the way now now, your kids will be close in age, which means they'll go to the same schools, which means you'll only have to make one stop!  They'll be school-age at the same time, so they'll both be out of the house during the day...'


me: 'Okay, maybe.  But wouldn't it be better to wait until Child A is old enough to be a supplemental caregiver for Child B*?'  

An essay entitled It Only Takes a Partial Village if You Just Have One Kid  is
 a particularly fine study of this conundrum.

The Sh•tty moms say that 'One kid is a carry-on bag — portable and manageable. Two or more is like checked luggage — costly and likely to get lost.' 

Yes, Sh•tty Moms, I'm glad you brought up the subject of travel/vacation time.  Wouldn't it be rude to ask the poor grandparents to take care two children while Matt and I go on vacation?  I feel like that would be kind of rude.  So then do you have to ask one set of grandparents to take care of child A, and ask another set of grandparents to take care of child B?  Doesn't that present logistical challenges?  

*Obviously if you're old or almost old, you've gotta suck it up and get back in there.  

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